I was watching Good Morning America and they did a segment on some dude that blogged he liked one of his children more than another. First off it was a really crappy thing to post on the internet. Some feelings are best left unsaid.
I guess this takes "daddy likes you better" to a whole different level. Who in their right mind or wrong mind even thinks it is a good idea to let the entire world know they have more in common with one child than the do the other. To add insult to injury we are talking about a 5 year old and a 3 year old.
From a psychological perspective this can be so damaging to both children, not to mention that it may be true which is worse. It may be very true that parents especially dads prefer one child over another. It has a lot to do with the level of maturity of the parents and their ability to recognize that children have different personality traits that the get from.....drum roll.....their parents!!
It can be hard for parents to sometimes distinguish between the fact that a child displays traits that they have that they don't like or that their partner has that they don't like. This dislike is often transposed on to the child. It is sad but true. In many cases the parent just can not get past it. This is why in large families there may be only one child that is physically abused.
What Do You Do When You Like One Kid More Than Another
The million dollar question becomes what do you do about it? How can you change your feelings? The answer is through family therapy. Family therapy can help the entire family to work things out including mom and dad and any feelings of resentment or dislike they are feeling.
Never ever let your children hear that you like one better than the other, as a matter of fact just keep it to yourself. It is an awful thing for a child to feel unwanted and no matter how you word your feelings that is how it will come across.
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